Having a marriage that is built on a foundation of integrity will always outlast a marriage that is not. And not only will it last, but generally is more enjoyable for the couple as well. Integrity is something we are lacking as a society, not just in marriages. But before we set out to change the world, let’s just focus on improving ourselves first. Building a marriage with honesty, and loyalty, really isn’t difficult. If you are having to lie about something you are doing because your spouse doesn’t like it, then don’t do it. Or if you feel strongly that you should be doing it, and it is the right thing to do, tell them you are doing it. And they will need to accept it. But you must do this openly, and in a respectful manner. If you start by being honest to yourself, then it will be a lot easier to be honest to your spouse.
Once you start to lie, the easier it will become, and the more you will feel you have to lie. It is an ongoing cycle that you will be in, and it will lead no where except to disaster. So you need to break that cycle. When you start to tell the truth, the more easy it will become. Even if you are ashamed of what you have done, or a certain way you have felt, your spouse will have to try and understand, and realize that you are being totally upfront and honest. That should mean a lot to them.
It is never to late to start being honest and loyal with your spouse. Saving your marriage by bringing integrity into your life is not unheard of, and really can save your marriage. But you must make the effort, and the change to your life, and your marriage.