How important is having similar life goals and plans with your spouse? Well pretty damn important. If you want to travel the world, and your spouse wants nothing to do with that, but wants kids. And you definitely don’t want kids because you will be traveling. Will that cause a problem in a marriage? You bet it will. I am not saying you need to have the exact same plan and goals, but it is important to know what each others goals are, and how you plan to reach them. That way you can both work together to reach them.
If you feel you are totally going separate ways that your spouse currently. Have you openly talked about what each one of you want out of life? Instead of giving up right away, discuss ways that you both could reach those goals, stay together, and live a happy, yet fulfilling life. You can create new plans to get where you want in life, and by working together, in some cases you can reach those goals much quicker. The quicker you can openly talk about what your goals are, before any type of separation or space occurs, the better off you will be. Even with my first example above with the traveling. You both could actually figure out a way to make that work, in that case you may have to compromise some things. But it can be done, with some determination, teamwork and put some love in that mix too!
So make sure your plans and goals for life are very clear with your spouse, and they can change all the time, be aware of that too. Work together, and make it work for both of you. The happiest of marriages happen with both members of the marriage are fulfilling their life goals and plans, with each other by their side. You can save your marriage from falling apart and going separate ways just by vocalizing goals, and making new plans to get to them. Good luck!