When a marriage takes a turn for the worst, it feels like it gets out of control, almost free falling to the ground. There are many questions, many thoughts that are passing through your head, you have lack of energy and you may seem to be lugging around extra weight on your shoulders. What makes the whole scenario even worse is that you find out your spouse doesn’t seem to care, or what to put any effort in to saving this marriage, or quite possibly just doesn’t want to save the marriage from divorce. But the truth is, you can learn how to save the marriage alone. You are quite capable of fixing the majority of the problems by yourself, and then approaching them. People have done this before, so again, it is more than possible to do.
So how do you go about trying to learn the right steps to learn how to save a marriage alone? Well it begins with finding out what the heck happened! Why did your marriage start to fall apart? What were your contributions and what were your spouses contributions to the stage your marriage is in now? Once you figure out this, you need to see if there is any under lying issues that need to be addressed. Usually with a situation where you are the only one trying to save the marriage, communication is a factor that started the downfall of your marriage. And when I say it was a factor, I mean that there was a lack of communication between you two, which is why you are on a different page than the other. You have to look at all areas, romance and intimacy, habits, work, children, family, friends, communication, and such things as those.
By doing this you are bringing a lot of the problems to the surface. And once they are there you are able to find solutions and usually fix them. You may need help doing this, so maybe try finding a guide, book to help you out. If you are even in more need of help you can look to a counselor. Remember if you want it, you can get it, you can learn how to save a marriage alone!