A few years ago I had a unhealthy relationship. We had marriage problems, and we weren’t getting anywhere fast. Let me rewind a bit first. When me and my wife first met, we were crazy in love. I wouldn’t say it was love a first sight, be definitely lust! But a couple dates in, I had a good feeling about her. So for the next 1-2 years everything was great. We were having a fantastic life together, actively doing things, great romance and intimacy, communication was good. There were no complaints.
Then, before I knew it, it was like someone slammed our fairy tale book closed. We were fighting almost every day, we had no sex life, we rarely did anything together, because if we did we would just argue the whole time. We were both miserable. You know it is bad when you start being mean to each other. We literally tried to make each other feel like crap. It got to the point where we realized we needed to fix this, or just end it. It was killing us both. So we both loved each other so we decided to fix it. We went to counseling for bit. It was a good starting point, it got us at least trying to talk again.But there was something that we both didn’t like about it. So we searched online for professional help, without someone physically being there and being pushy etc. It was like they were sent from god.
Save The Marriage and Save My Marriage Today were the best books that I have bought to help relationships. We in total bought 5. They both had the same point, but different perspectives almost. Both of them helped us in different ways. All we did was read through the book together, and did the assignments inside. The assignments or activities really worked. I was kind of thinking it was a bit silly, and I knew the answer to them all. But once you do it, something clicks in your head. It is weird and hard to explain. We still a ways to go before we have a perfect marriage, but now, we are doing stuff together, and you know what, we are happy!
Saving a marriage does take work, but I can’t even explain how great it feels once you do. Once you go through something like this, you know can do anything with each other. It’s truly amazing!