I know I have ranted about this subject in many of my posts. But I really can’t tell you how important communication is for your marriage to last. I just had a meeting with a minister regarding a wedding. And he was telling me that communication is pretty much all he talks about to couples that he is about to wed. And I cannot agree more! Communicating with your spouse is important in every single area of your relationship. So let’s talk about what communicating really is.
This is from Wikipedia, “Communication is the activity of conveying information. Communication has been derived from the Latin word “communis”, meaning to share. Communication requires a sender, a message, and an intended recipient, although the receiver need not be present or aware of the sender’s intent to communicate at the time of communication; thus communication can occur across vast distances in time and space. Communication requires that the communicating parties share an area of communicative commonality. The communication process is complete once the receiver has understood the message of the sender. Feedback is critical to effective communication between parties.” (Wikipedia owns all rights to the above content located in quotations, you can find it here)
It mentions it is from the Latin word “communis” which means to share. Now that is very, very true. We should almost use that word instead because people seem to talk, and that’s it. ” I did this, I did that, I feel this way, You should do this, Can You do that, You did this to me, I want…” While it is important to speak up when something is bothering you, there is a right way to do it. And sharing information is the right way. Because when you share, you also are going to listen to the other person.
Communication takes at least two people. You both have to be listening, taking turns talking. And especially when you are married, you should be able to make sense of all the behavioral actions your spouse does to communicate as well. This means you are actively listening, which is great. When you both are doing this, you will find your disagreements will go much smoother, there will be less of them, and your marriage will be much happier. You will avoid many situations that comes from lack of communication in a marriage.